These 4 agreements will change your life.
The four agreements are form a book with the same title written by Don Miguel Ruiz. The
agreements are ancient Toltec wisdom of the native people of Southern Mexico. The Toltec were people of
knowledge, scientists and artists who created a society to explore and conserve the traditional spiritual
wisdom and practices of their ancestors.
These four agreements are very simple and elegant; if you take them to heart and practice them
they will change your life for sure. The Four Agreements provide an inspirational code for life, a personal
development model, and a template for behavior, communications and relationships.
The agreements are:
First agreement: Be impeccable with your words
Your words constitute the power you have to create. Words are the most powerful tool you
have as a human being, the instrument of magic. Depending on how you use them, words can free you or enslave you,
even more than you think they can. This includes the words you say to others and your internal dialogue. Impeccable
means without sin. Always give words of encouragement, love and hope and be vigilant of what you say to yourself
and others. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about
Second agreement: Don’t take anything
Self importance, or taking things personally, is the ultimate expression of selfishness,
because we believe that everything revolves around us. During the period of our education (domestication), we
learned to take all things personally. We have to realize that nothing other people do is for you, what other
people do, they do it for themselves, even when they hurt or insult you. When someone hurts you he causes the
damage to himself, not to you. When someone judges you he doesn’t define you, he defines himself as someone who
needs to judge. We all live in our own world, in our own mind, each of us lives in a completely different word from
one another. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are
immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Third agreement:Don’t make assumptions
We tend to make assumptions about everything. The problem is
that in doing so, we believe that what we assume is true. We
could swear is real. We make assumptions about what others do or think and
we take it personally, then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison with our words. This is why when we
make assumptions we create problems. We make an assumption,
misinterpret things, we take it personally and we end up creating a big drama for nothing. Don’t assume anything,
it’s better to ask and be certain of things. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others
as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform
Fourth agreement: Always do your best.
There is only one more agreement; this last agreement is the
one that makes the other 3 agreements become deeply ingrained habits. The fourth agreement refers to the
realization of the other 3. Always do your best. Under any circumstance, always give your maximum effort, no more
and no less, give your all. Always keep in mind that your maximum effort will vary from time to time. All things
are alive and in constant change, and so in some occasions your maximum effort will render great quality, and in
others not so good. By always doing your best you’ll
avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regrets.
Make a conscious effort to practice these 4 agreements for a week and I’m sure you’ll be amazed
with the results
You can find a link to buy The Four Agreements in my Books Section
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